Wow! I can’t believe we are already on week four of our #MotherhoodMonday series. I hope you’ve been enjoying it as much as I have. Yes, we’ve been taken on some challenging topics, but I absolutely love the honesty and realism that is being shared about the adventures of motherhood.
This week is definitely no exception as we’re taking on Motherhood Mistakes…I’m pretty sure it doesn’t get more real than this!
Over and over we are told that being a mother is the most important job you’ll ever have, and without a doubt I believe this to be true. We are responsible for another human being and that my dear friends is far from easy…and let’s be honest, sometimes it’s downright scary. I think at the beginning we all strive for this coveted level of perfection and it just doesn’t exist.
I can promise you that we all make mistakes as mothers. If there is one thing that you can be sure of in the parenting journey it’s that mistakes will be made and plenty of them. Not just once, not just twice, but over and over again. Here’s the deal though, do your kids know that you love them with all your heart, do they know that you would give up absolutely anything for them, mine do and I bet yours do too. That’s the good stuff right there, that’s what truly matters not all of the crazy boneheaded mistakes that each and everyone of us makes, show yourself some grace momma!
I’ve always tried to be a model of grace to my children, but know that there are so many times that I’ve failed in this department too. Just last week our middle son forgot to give me his Friday folder until Monday morning as we were walking out the door to school and there were several forms that needed to be filled out, money to be sent in for a school event, and signatures needed, I kind of lost it. Let’s just say I was far from gracious, and the entire ” you need to be more responsible”, “you’ve had all weekend to give me this and you wait until now”, and “we’re going to be late for school because of this” all came flying out. Now, was there an element of truth in everything that I said, yes, yes there was. Did I also make him feel tiny and small and potentially started his week off on a pretty rotten note, yes, yes I did. I really did make a mountain out of a molehill, but as we were driving to school, late of course, I turned around and apologized for these very things. I explained that I would try harder to help him remember to take his things out of his backpack as soon as he gets home from school, and that in doing so hopefully it would help him to establish a better routine of doing it himself too. That I was sorry for reacting the way that I did, that I loved him, and that I hoped he would forgive me for it. He then turned to me and said “it’s ok Mom, I should have remembered too, and that’s not your fault. I love you and hope you have a good day.” Let’s just say it’s a good thing that this momma had her sunglasses on, because when your 6th grade boy tells you that he loves you as your flying through the drop off lane at school, it’s a beautiful thing that causes spontaneous tears to go flying down your cheeks. They definitely added a little something extra to my already disheveled morning appearance. 😉
My initial response showed absolutely no grace once so ever, but I would like to think that my secondary response did in some small way. It is in moments such as these that I hope my children learn that they will make lots of mistakes all the time, as will I, but even if we don’t always do our best the first time around, that it’s ok to cut ourselves some slack, pick ourselves up, and do better the next time.
Plenty more motherhood inspiration can be found by checking out what these lovely ladies have to say about their journey as well, make sure to check them all out!
Amber Marie: http://www.ambertackles.com/motherhood-mistakes
Amber Joy: http://www.simplythewildside.net/#!blog/c7age