Part three of our #MotherhoodMonday series is a challenging one. I almost opted out of participating this week, as I really wasn’t sure if I could do this topic justice, but I’ve been enjoying collaborating with these other lovely ladies so much, and sharing a bit more about my motherhood journey with all of you, that I decided to give it a whirl. So here we go, let’s talk about Motherhood Mindfulness.
Mindfulness: a mental state achieved by focusing one’s awareness on the present moment, while calmly acknowledging and accepting one’s feelings, thoughts, and bodily sensations
Let me just say right now that being present in the moment, and I mean the fully 110% all in kind of present, isn’t something that comes easily to me. I openly admit to being one of those mommas who’s mind is always going, who’s always looking ahead, and who isn’t always calm.
I’m so extremely grateful that I’m blessed to be able to work from home, both by sharing my love of essential oils and Young Living with others, and with this blog. Being a work at home mom has afforded me so much more freedom than when I worked outside of the home, however it also means that I really have to manage my time well, and really establish a work/home balance too. I miss SO much less of what is going on with my kids now, which is such an incredible gift. It really has allowed me to be present so much more, and to appreciate even the small things that I wouldn’t have even witnessed before, but sometimes I’ll admit that I definitely find myself thinking about what I’m going to share next on this blog, what needs to be done with my business, who’s doing the laundry, what child needs to be driven where…you get the point. In these moments I’m far from calm and I’m usually far from accepting my thoughts and feelings and let’s be honest there’s definitely the moments of thinking that I might be losing my mind. 😉 Not exactly mindful, I know.
So I started to give some serious thought to those things that help me to refocus and help me to achieve even some degree of mindfulness. My Motherhood Mantras definitely came back full circle as some truly do apply here too.
God is my strength and I can do all things through Him.
Yes This is one of those mantras that is quite applicable here too. Without God’s faithfulness and guidance my mindfulness is basically nonexistent. Those days where I don’t start out in his word, and where I forget to be grateful for all the blessings in my life are usually the days that I’m far from calm, and far from accepting of my thoughts and feelings.
When I give myself permission to take care of me, I give myself the potential to achieve some degree of mindfulness.
As moms it’s often so hard to make time for ourselves, even if it’s just 10 minutes. I used to feel so guilty if I took a few minutes for myself, and sometimes I still do, but being a “new” mom again a bit later in life does offer some perspective at times. I’ve learned that in literally 10-15 minutes of quiet, enjoying a cup of tea, or if it’s an overly lucky day, getting to take a soak in the tub, makes me not only a better wife and mom, but helps me to be so much more in tune with my own thoughts, feelings, and even those of my husband and children too.
Take some deep cleansing breaths to allow your mind and body the opportunity to be fully present in the moment.
This is something I’ve really started practicing every single day. My thinking here kind of reminds me of the whole out with the bad in with the good theory, but it works! By now you know about my love for essential oils, and all the wonderful things that they have done for our family’s health and wellness. Well I use them daily to facilitate this sort of cleansing as well, to keep my stress at a minimum, and to assist in being present in the moment. Some of favorites for these purposes are:
- Valor (I like to call this one courage and self confidence in a bottle), and I start each and every day with this one
- Stress Away (my signature scent, the name says it all)
- Present Time (heightens the sense of being in the moment)
- Joy (creates a warm comforting environment)
- Peace & Calming (enough said)
Life isn’t about being controlling it’s about being present.
Oh my, do I need to remind myself about this one frequently. So often I get caught up in things needing to be done this way or that way…and let’s face it usually that’s my way. This literally crushes my ability to be present in the moment and just enjoy the season of life that’s going on all around me. Does it really matter if the towels are put away the way that I want them or if the kids stay up 10 minutes later then I had planned, no it does not. In the grand scheme of things such things have no importance at all.
Motherhood Mindfulness looks different to each and every one of us. Make sure to check out how all of these other amazing women are working to achieve their own as well.